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The Secret Cause Of “Distance”
In Relationships
Hey there,
I'm about to share a secret with you
about men that most women will go their entire love lives
never seeing or understanding.
Here's why it's critical that you find
out about this secret RIGHT NOW...
This one simple but powerful insight
could mean the difference between you becoming truly close,
connected and committed with a man, in the kind of way where
you TRULY know him.
Or...
Experiencing the disconnection and
withdrawal that often comes from a man's fear of “losing
his freedom” or being overwhelmed by intimacy in a
relationship with a woman, who DOESN'T know about this secret.
The truth is, it doesn't have to be
so difficult when it comes to a lasting relationship with
a man.
Keep reading to learn a powerful insight
most women will never come across to turn the common “resistance”
in relationships with men from an obstacle to a point of
growth and connection.
Oh, and here's something else you're
going to get from this insight that will DRAMATICALLY change
things in your love life for the better...
What you're about to learn will not
only help you understand what's REALLY going on in a man's
mind... since, as you know, men can often not share much
or make it feel very easy to share...
But... it can also have the rare and
desirable quality of actually helping a man to understand
YOU more.
Wouldn't that be a breath of fresh
air?
If you haven't read between the lines
yet, I'm talking about a RELATIONSHIP SKILL that's CRITICAL
for you to learn if you want a lasting relationship with
a man.
Stop repeating the same old patterns,
that you know from experience, have only lead to heartbreak,
disappointment or wasted energy.
It's time for change.
It's time to do things differently.
It's time to have what you want in
love.
It's time to find and use WHAT ACTUALLY
WORKS in relationships with men.
THE POWER OF YOUR
BELIEFS
ABOUT MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS
There's something FASCINATING that
I've realized is a common source of pain and frustration
for lots of women in relationships with men... and I want
to share it with you.
Something that can create a subtle
but powerful and lasting DISTANCE between a woman and a
man.
Something that even happens for women
who would consider themselves “good communicators.”
Something that brings about the very
situations that most women are looking to avoid in a relationship
- such as disconnection, withdrawal and a lack of intimacy.
What I'm talking about here are our
BELIEFS.
But how are BELIEFS important when
it comes to dating and relationships with men?
Well, beliefs have a VERY POWERFUL
EFFECT on everything we think and do.
You're not always conscious of it,
but your beliefs color your entire perception of what's
happening around you.
You just don't see it happening because
your mind does it so quick and perfectly.
Everything you see and experience is
run through your own set of beliefs, and these help shape
a set of meanings, feelings and emotions.
So, in a sense, what you think and
feel is largely driven by your beliefs.
Here's where all this gets FASCINATING...
What if you have an overly “negative”
belief?
And what if you have a belief based
on fear or loss?
And what if you have a belief that's
just plain WRONG?
The PAINFUL TRUTH is that, if you're
like lots of women who've been hurt in relationships, then
you probably have your own set of beliefs about men, relationships
and about yourself in relationships.
And, like it or not, some of these
beliefs are most likely shaping negative, limiting or even
SELF-DESTRUCTIVE experiences in your life.
Of course, men have these kind of beliefs
too, and these beliefs subtly drive parts of their thinking
and behavior.
Here's a great example...
Tell me... would a healthy, loving,
committed relationship with a woman really take away a man's
“freedom”?
Of course not.
Believe it or not, men are smart enough
to know this when they have a great woman in their life.
But then, why do so many men still
believe this to be true anyway, and act it out in their
relationships through non-committal or withdrawing behavior?
Here's the strange part about WHY...
It's not a man's “logical”
or “rational” mind that's completely in control
here.
It's the man's SUBCONSCIOUS BELIEF
that a woman and a relationship will take away his freedom.
Note that I said “SUBCONSCIOUS”
BELIEF here...
Which means that even if you “called
a man out” about this belief in his mind, it doesn't
mean that he'd be able to see what you're talking about,
let alone understand it for himself.
Follow me here?
In fact, a man would probably say you
were making up “psycho-babble” and not hear
you at all.
But here's the point...
Men and women both have important and
powerful beliefs about the other sex and relationships,
rooted deep in their minds.
So...
Do you know YOUR beliefs?
And do you know how to find out what
a man's beliefs are?
Knowing this you won't fall into common
deadly relationship traps other women come up against again
and again with men and can NEVER get the clarity that they're
after.
IDENTIFYING YOUR
“LIMITING BELIEFS”
AND THE COMMON SITUATIONS WITH
MEN THAT CREATE THEM
After years of research, study and
observation, I've found several of the common false or “limiting
beliefs” that keep women from loving and having lasting
relationships with men.
Of course, I've also found common “limiting
beliefs” that men have - ones that seem to, in situation
after situation, make it difficult for them to be in committed
relationships.
But let's start by talking about the
most important person here...
YOU.
Let me ask you an important question...
Have you ever wondered if there's something
you're just plain missing about men in general?
That when it comes to how men think,
feel and behave in relationships, they're really all messed
up and strange?
Here's something I've learned from
women about what's really puzzling about a man...
How can a man be so open, generous,
loving and caring early on and at various times in a relationship,
but then act like you aren't the same two people who share
so much when things go wrong?
I've seen this myself, and I've heard
it from TONS of women who've I've met, spoken to, worked
with and received emails from online.
In fact, to be honest, I've even been
that guy myself in the past.
The reality is that a man can go from
caring, protective, complimentary, and emotionally engaged
with a woman, and then suddenly become distant, cold or
uninterested.
All as though he was never even emotionally
involved in the first place.
Know what I'm talking about here?
Give me a silent nod if you've experienced
this kind of thing with a man before.
Sucks, right?
When it happened, you probably felt,
on some level, like you'd NEVER understand what in the world
is going on with men.
And...
You probably felt like you'd NEVER
MEET A MAN who was different and who would UNDERSTAND YOU.
Let alone get how love and relationships
work in YOUR WORLD.
Sound or feel familiar?
Ok, now guess what these thoughts and
feelings are?
That's right.. these are the BELIEFS
that you've picked up from your past experiences with men.
And guess what else?
They're not very helpful to you.
In fact, they're actually COUNTERPRODUCTIVE
when you're wanting to have an open, connected, loving relationship
with a man.
They also create distance between you
and a man - distance that most women never know they're
creating themselves.
But don't worry... you're not strange,
messed up or weird.
We've all been there.
You most likely took on these self-defeating
beliefs to try and deal with the pain you felt, and to help
make sense of it all.
There's a direct link between pain
and awareness.
And when you experience pain, it's
a natural reaction of the mind and body to lessen your awareness,
in an effort to help numb the pain.
But here's what you need to know RIGHT
NOW...
If you don't start to look for and
become aware of your own Limiting Beliefs, then they'll
just keep holding you back from ever finding what you want.
The strange thing is, for some reason, lots of people like
to hold on to their false and Limiting Beliefs - regardless
of how damaging they are.
I like to think of these kind of beliefs
as a “SECRET EXCUSE”.
We each have one, or more, Secret Excuses
that we make up to comfort and protect ourselves from the
things that hurt or disappoint us about our lives or ourselves.
But here's the reality...
Your Secret Excuse is getting in your
way.
Your Secret Excuse is keeping you at
a distance from men, or that one special man, in your life.
Your Secret Excuse is actually taking
the new things that are coming into your life and painting
them over with a dark negative “tint”.
Let me give you a few of my favorite
“Secret Excuses” that I hear from women all
the time when it comes to men...
“Men can't have real relationships.”
“There are no good guys out there.”
“All men cheat.”
Or, how about some of the hopeless
ones...
“Even if I find a great guy,
he won't end up truly loving me... and it won't last.”
“I never get back what I put
in when it comes to relationships. I give up.”
Or, there are the martyr beliefs...
“I'm just not meant to have true
love in my life - and all these past heartbreaks and failed
situations are PROOF.”
“There's something wrong with
me as a woman, and I won't be able to fix it, so I'll give
up on finding real love in my life.”
And then there's the single most popular
and common limiting and self-defeating belief out there...
It's so subtle and pervasive that some
women pass it around to each other daily, without even noticing
how negatively it effects them -
“Men are jerks.”
If you don't understand how destructive
this can be, imagine this...
What do you think would be going on
for a man if he had repeatedly said that he thought women
were all “hysterical?”
Or how about, “Women are all
bitchy?”
Not a very healthy outlook on women
and relationships here, right?
Not the kind of guy you want to make
a “go of it” with... right?
Lots of “baggage” to overcome.
Or maybe worse...
Lots of deeply rooted personal BELIEFS
to break down before a man would ever actually SEE YOU for
who YOU are and be “present” with you.
Translation - lots of emotional distance
and a severe lack of understanding and intimacy.
PUTTING YOUR
NEW AWARENESS OF
“LIMITING BELIEFS” TO WORK IN YOUR LOVE LIFE
So, now that you've got this new “education”
about BELIEFS, how they work, and their power, what can
you do to improve your situation RIGHT NOW?
What can actually create positive change
and growth in the real-world you live in?
In other words...
Ideas are good.
But RESULTS are better.
The very first step is to take the
time to pay attention to your own “voice.”
You know... that one that's in your
head that goes off and screams loudly inside when bad things
happen with a man.
And yeah, I bet this voice isn't the
thing you want to try and get close to in your life right
now.
But the sooner you figure out why it's
there and what's behind it, the sooner you can make a positive
change for the better.
Here's something simple but profound.
(My favorite kind of concept!)
The more aware you become about something,
the more power you have to change it.
But you can't work with something that
you haven't put your finger on and identified for yourself.
So start by working to pay more attention
to the things you DON'T LIKE, or that BOTHER YOU about men
or relationships.
Maybe it's that thing that has somehow
happened to you again and again with men, even though you
promised yourself you'd never let that kind of thing into
your life again.
Yeah, I know... Yikes!
I'm asking you to look at that “crap?“
You're probably thinking that you finally
got away from it.
Well, I'm not asking you to go there
because I'm sick and twisted. (not much anyway...lol)
I don't want things to be tougher than
they have to be for you to find and create the love and
fulfillment you deserve.
No... it's because I want you to be
able to move past the things that are holding you back by
pushing them out from the place where they subtly undermine
you.
I call this “lighting the dark
spots”.
These “dark spots” are
where we don't often like to look and are the places that
we hide things from ourselves that we don't like when we
see them.
But these places, as scary as they
might seem, are the source of our Limiting Beliefs.
So, when we can bring these things
into our consciousness and awareness, we gain positive power
over them.
Of course, it also really helps to
have experience and guidance when you start off in new areas.
Finding the right information can save
you literally years or decades of time and wasted energy.
And that's where you're really in luck...
I've literally spent years helping
women avoid the pain and frustration of destructive and
limiting beliefs.
In fact, I've been able to save thousands
of women from the wasted time and energy of trying HARDER
and HARDER in their relationships and getting LESS and LESS
back.
Partly by just clearing up some of
the critical misunderstandings and frustrations that come
from limiting beliefs.
But also, by explaining the importance
of knowing EXACTLY what to do in each of the critical situations
that come up with men while dating and in relationships.
There are crucial “resistance
points” with men and dating... and if a woman doesn't
know about these, it's HIGHLY likely that she'll trip over
them and end up with the common and dreaded emotionally
distant and non-committal man.
Don't end up there, with no idea of
how to change things - without the drama and resistance
- on how "talks" can go for lots of women with men.
Here's the good news...
A few years ago, I finally decided
to take all my very best ideas, concepts and strategies
that I'd used to help women in the REAL WORLD, and put it
all together in one single COMPLETE REFERENCE GUIDE.
What came together was an in-depth
guide to what's really going on inside the mind of a man.
A guide that any woman could quickly
and easily use to transform her love life - as a single
woman OR inside her existing relationship.
My ebook, “Catch Him And Keep
Him” is quite possibly the world's best single “guide
book” for women when it comes to the male mind, dating,
attraction and LASTING RELATIONSHIPS.
But don't take my word for it...
I've included a few recent emails I
got in my inbox from women who have read my book.
See what they have to say for yourself.
You can find their emails a little
further below.
Or, if you want, you can download my
ebook right now and be reading it in literally a minute
or two.
I'm SO ABSOLUTELY CONFIDENT that you're
going to get TONS and TONS of real and lasting change, growth,
and benefits in your love life from my book that I'm going
to make you a special promise.
I'll let you try my ebook FREE to see
if you like it.
That's right...
I'm 110% sure it will bring amazing
change into your life with men, dating and relationships.
Although, I won't lie - it's not going
to download itself and jump into your brain all on it's
own...
You actually do have to read it and
work with the material - and I can't do that for you.
But what better “investment”
could you make that promises to bring you more connection,
love and fulfillment in your relationship?
What would that be worth?
Do yourself a “free favor”
right now and download my ebook for a free trial.
There's NOTHING to lose, and everything
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If you don't like the book for ANY
reason, all you have to do is email me to let me know and
you'll pay nothing.
ZERO.
No questions asked. Period.
You don't even have to try and come
up with a good excuse.
Don't waste any more time waiting for
the love life you want to “find you” or for
him to be the one to make it happen for you.
It's time to take the love that you
know is possible in your life... into your own hands...
Go here now:
Best of luck in life and love and I'll
talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
—REAL EMAILS FROM ACTUAL READERS
OF MY EBOOK—
Christian,
I first want to start off by thanking you. I read your book
front to cover in three days and it may just be the most
powerful and inspirational tool i have ever encountered!
You truly opened up my eyes to a completely new way of dealing
with men and helped me see what it was that I was doing
wrong.
I also read, "He's Just Not That Into You" before i read
"Catch Him and Keep Him." I must say, although it was a
good book, i strongly believe that yours was much more informative
on an objective level. You explain it in a way that doesn't
criticize or put women down. Instead you literally show
us how we can make some changes in the way we perceive situations
with men. Your book was a much more constructive learning
tool for me.
Thank you!
D.B.
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Christian,
I hope this e-mail will get to you. I bought and paid for
your book this week. I also read the entire book because
it is a fast read.
I just wanted to tell you that you are utterly amazing -
you have your head on straight, and I totally agree with
your viewpoint on the male/female dynamics. I am recently
divorced after being previously widowed, so I know what
a good marriage and relationship consists of based on the
first marriage. At this juncture, I needed some reassurance,
and your book really reconfirmed the viewpoint that I already
had-- that being an independent, self-assured woman is a
win for the woman, and a win for a relationship.
I've recently gone on 3 dates with someone I like. On the
last date, I was kind of disappointed that he didn't make
sexual advances. Based on reading your book, I am honored.
Thanks for that enlightenment.
Alice C.
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Hi Christian!
I have to tell you, this book, along with several other
key events, has changed my life!!! In the past week, I've
been contacting old boyfriends and forgiving them, apologizing,
sending love to them and really meaning it! I am able to
stop being a victim of circumstance and start taking responsibility
for creating everything I want and deserve. It's all about
loving and forgiving myself. I was seeking approval and
a whole slew of other disgusting behaviors. I just didn't
get it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!! I'm going to
tell all of my single friends about this web site and book~!
Julie :)
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Subject: Success story
Hi Christian!
This email is about a success story, but not mine - yours!
:)
Your story (ebook) is a true success! I am glad I had the
guts to write my Visa-card no and order your book, I hope
U won't sell it to criminals in the future.... I had some
money left on the account today so I might just trust U
after all. :)
I have just started to study at University (after working
17 years): Social psychology and communication, I have also
gone to a course in Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)
and what can I say: YOUR BOOK HAS IT ALL! You have great
skills in several areas and combine them in a very intelligent
way. I read somewhere that you said that you're not an author.
You are! I can tell. It was the perfect language for this
subject. You even put in data about scientific research
in a very interesting and humorous way.
Actually, you have inspired me to become a "non- author"
in topics about personal development and understanding people...my
vision is to become a personal coach and I think this writing
thing can be something for me too. I have never had that
idea before but I will continue nurturing it!
Finally: THANK YOU for explaining why I have failed in earlier
relationships! And also why I succeeded in some! It all
seems clear now. I can't wait to test my new skills and
see where it takes me :) I have come so far that I know
that the only person that can make me happy is me, myself
and I, that is the first step right? That means I will no
longer be needy and clingy, halleluja. I have a good life
without a man.
I hope you have come so far that you are able to feel how
grateful I truly am for the opportunity to read your "instruction
book", and that I really think that you have made a great
job. Put this knowledge in your heart and keep it. I don't
want to waist your time in vain, see. :)
Best wishes,
Annki from Sweden
ps: Sorry for the "false" subject line....I couldn't resist
it :)
ps2: I don't know how many grey hairs the studies have given
you, but trust me, it was worth it :) You will save loads
of women from unnecessary pain. Hopefully loads of men as
well. That gives a lot of plus points in heaven! :)
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